Falling pregnant didn’t come easily for my husband and I. One of the most natural things in the world, for seemingly “everyone” else had its challenges for us, so the minute I saw the two blue lines on that stick, I was consumed by this instant need to make the “best” decisions possible for my growing family.
Today I met with three clients and their babies and caught up on how motherhood is treating each of them. These women and their partners each employed me as their doula, and for that I will forever be grateful. My questions in this blog are:
1 How do I choose the right client, and how do clients choose the right doula? 2 Did I know when I met these women that I was the right doula for them? 3 Is it ok that I want to continue a relationship with each of these women and their babies, or is my job done?
As a society we are very focused on pregnancy and birth - and rightly so, it’s a huge life event after all. But not much is spoken about the period that immediately follows. The more clients that I support, the more I notice that this time comes almost as an unexpected shock, mostly because of the focus placed on birth as the main event - when really, birth is just the start, the beginning of your parenting journey. I've outlined some points below to consider so that you can prepare a little before you have your beautiful baby in your arms.